Enjoy The Single Life

Enjoy The Single Life

By examining some of the drawback of being in a relationship you can learn to enjoy the single life. Another aspect of a relationship is that you lose time to develop your own interests and well being. It seems that every time I get into a relationship, I work out less, I read less, and self improvement gets put on the back burner, or even worse, gets tossed out the window altogether. If you find yourself suddenly single, take the time that you would normally spend with a lover and use it to make yourself even more attractive. Take a college course, read that long novel you've been staring at in the bookstore window, do some yoga, go on a diet -- anything to make yourself a better person. Not only will you be better of for it, but you may find that this increase in your charisma will attract potential future partners. Working out, increasing your brain power, etc. will only make you more attractive to potential mates. Of course, this means that eventually you'll give up these new pursuits -- but the improvement you gain while single can't be taken away. Being single is the perfect time to work on the most important person in your life: you.

Being single doesn't have to mean being lonely. Casual dating is a vital part of your development -- believe it or not, it is possible to date without the serious commitments that get in the way of your life. In other words, being single frees you up to date a variety of people. You might consider dating someone you would never think of as a "partner" -- you never know what you can learn about yourself and other people by expanding your horizons. By taking a variety of people out on casual dates, you'll expand your future pool of romantic partners, and at very least you can make some new friends. Dating new people also opens up new activities, things you may have never tried or even considered. I once went on a casual date with a girl from Ethiopia who wanted to take me to an authentic Ethiopian restaurant. This is not a type of food I would normally seek out, but I found out that I LOVE Ethiopian food. I now seek out Ethiopian restaurants in every city I visit. This is just one small example -- perhaps you'll take a very adventurous friend out on a date, and he or she will want to go sky diving or take a hot air balloon ride. The adrenalin rush will not only increase the sparks between the two of you, but its good for your mental health and well being. Being single doesn't have to mean being lonely -- it can simply mean a wider scope of potential partners.

Last but not least another advantage of being single is that it's a million times less stressful than being in a serious relationship. Many of our relationships cause stress, and stress is just plain awful for our physical and mental health, causing depression, changes in blood pressure, a weakened immune system, and all sorts of potential nasty side effects. The single life is a relatively stress free life. You can enjoy your time alone, lounge around the house naked, take part in your favorite activities without wondering if your partner is enjoying it, and just generally relax. People pay good money to therapists and gyms to avoid stress, when simply living the single life can do much to relieve stress.

There is nothing wrong with having a serious romantic partner. In fact, I firmly believe that healthy relationships are the greatest gifts we can give ourselves. But its just as important to recognize when we need to be single, and to acknowledge the positive side of the single life. The next time you find yourself "alone" consider this -- you're never alone if you've got yourself, and being single can be the best way to really learn who you are. So cheer up -- all is not lost just because you don't have a boyfriend or girlfriend. Now -- I'm off to go bowling with my buddies, but first I have to call my girlfriend and make sure its okay. Man, this single life is looking better and better all the time...

This is a re-post from: http://www.askdeb.com/love/single/  Thank you! All Views expressed may not be agrees by PRS but we found it very helpful!

All the Sinlge Ladies! Part 1

So your Single eh?

Many of us have been frustrated and jealous of other happy couples and just want to find the man we were meant for. We feel left out and left with no hope of finding our soul mate. Dating can be exhausting and it can get old very quick, and there are lonely times where we all have given up one of our greatest desires. In those times we should find it essential to surround ourselves with all the blessings in our lives and refocus our life and thought processes. It is time to get out in the RIGHT places, take calculated risks and focus on what we are blessed with.

The fact is that being single is not a disease. It is not an epidemic or a virus. When people ask you “your such a nice pretty girl why aren’t you married”? Or if you start dating someone the question usually is so when is the wedding? You’re getting married right? Or when people say (usually married people) just hang in there he is right around the corner, maybe you should get out more or try on-line? The initial reaction is to either cry or be very angry. I say that we come up with a conditioned answer to people’s pressuring questions. We can be happy right here where we are. Society says that single girls are the outcast and we should feel sorry for them. Uhhh No, it is time to change this view!

We don’t owe anyone ANY explanation of where we are in life. I have come across too many sad single women recently not to bring this up. It is essential we live our lives no matter what the circumstance, and focus on what we do have! Yes, there will always be lonely times, emotional monthly times, chick flicks, girls nights with men talk, and day dreaming of the men we are meant to be with. I am in no way stating that I have mastered all of this but I am learning as we all are and enjoying my life. I am excited to meet Mr. Right, and I am excited to live my life. So ladies here is a little encouragement and food for thought for the modern single lady J Enjoy

EMBRACING SINGLENESS

Life doesn't start officially at 20 or 30 or 40. Life starts today!!! Life doesn’t start after you get married, or when you finally get pregnant, or when you buy a house, or when you are healed, or when you land your dream job. No, you can live life to the full now. Be encouraged to enjoy where you are in life right now, you are here for a reason!!

We can do so many things that our married friends cannot do however, let’s make it clear that marriage is a wonderful thing and will be enjoyed when it comes! I deeply want to be married and have a family, but right now is not the time for me. The focus in my life is me Deidra, and bettering myself and soul searching. I will continue these things as I see fit when I am with my future husband as well and find the balance that is necessary in a relationship. Ladies PRS is not a men bashing club at all. In fact we applaud all the great men out there because we know they exist! We are simply encouraging single women to live life, until we meet the one we are meant to be with J

 Like I said, this is time to be selfish in a way and figure out who we really are and what we want out of life. When we are in a relationship our focus shifts to completely off of us, to both of us, and bettering ourselves and our relationship. Once we stop looking for love and take a step back and re-focus life tends to run a bit smoother. Whatever happen will! Yes we have control over our destiny and have free will, but we also are sending out the desperate vibe to the potential candidates, which is not attractive. Confidence and a positive attitude and outlook is key, you are beautiful!

After the many pity parties that we throw ourselves over being single we need to realize that it isn't what we do or don't have that ultimately makes us happy or unhappy. It is how we approach those "barren" times that is the key to living a full life. We are not bound by your circumstances. However, we can let circumstances keep us bound, causing us to wallow in self pity or to blame others for our ill fate, but ultimately we don't have to answer to our circumstances, because they don't define who we are or what we will become. Our success or failure does not depend on where we are in life right now.

Stop and enjoy a beautiful sunset, the ocean, the mountains, the moon, the stars, a rainbow. Embrace the Creator of the universe. Embrace the beauty of His creation, His magnitude, His greatness, His love. Embrace life, knowing the creator has a plan even when you don’t always understand it or see it. Embrace His Word when life doesn’t make sense.